The statement of the Prophet ﷺ : "The deceased is punished because of the weeping (with wailing) of some of his relatives, if wailing was the custom of that dead person."

لِقَوْلِ اللَّهِ تَعَالَى: {قُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا}. وَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «كُلُّكُمْ رَاعٍ، وَمَسْئُولٌ عَنْ رَعِيَّتِهِ». فَإِذَا لَمْ يَكُنْ مِنْ سُنَّتِهِ، فَهُوَ كَمَا قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا: {لاَ تَزِرُ وَازِرَةٌ وِزْرَ أُخْرَى}. وَهُوَ كَقَوْلِهِ: {وَإِنْ تَدْعُ مُثْقَلَةٌ} ذُنُوبًا {إِلَى حِمْلِهَا لاَ يُحْمَلْ مِنْهُ شَيْءٌ} وَمَا يُرَخَّصُ مِنَ الْبُكَاءِ فِي غَيْرِ نَوْحٍ. وَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «لاَ تُقْتَلُ نَفْسٌ ظُلْمًا إِلاَّ كَانَ عَلَى ابْنِ آدَمَ الأَوَّلِ كِفْلٌ مِنْ دَمِهَا». وَذَلِكَ لأَنَّهُ أَوَّلُ مَنْ سَنَّ الْقَتْلَ.This is in agreement with the Statement of Allah تعالى “…Ward off yourself and your families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones…” (V.66:6). And the Prophet ﷺ said, “All of you are guardians and responsible for your wards.” If that (wailing) was not his custom, as ‘Aishah رضي الله عنها (quoting the Qur’an) said: “And no bearer of burdens shall bear the burden of another.” (V.6:164) “And if one heavily laden calls another to (bear) his load, nothing of it will be lifted…” (V.35:18). And what is said regarding the permission of weeping without wailing, and the Prophet ﷺ said, “Not a person is murdered unjustly but the first son of Adam (who did this crime first of all) will have a share of the crime of his murdering because he was the first to start the tradition of murdering.” ​​