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Sahih Bukhari 5228 — Marital Feelings and Gentle Understanding
The jealousy of women and their anger
Hadith About Aisha's Anger and the Prophet's Gentle Understanding
Sahih Bukhari : 5228
Sahih BukhariHadith Number 5228
حَدَّثَنَا عُبَيْدُ بْنُ إِسْمَاعِيلَ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو أُسَامَةَ، عَنْ هِشَامٍ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ ـ رضى الله عنها ـ قَالَتْ قَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم " إِنِّي لأَعْلَمُ إِذَا كُنْتِ عَنِّي رَاضِيَةً، وَإِذَا كُنْتِ عَلَىَّ غَضْبَى ". قَالَتْ فَقُلْتُ مِنْ أَيْنَ تَعْرِفُ ذَلِكَ فَقَالَ " أَمَّا إِذَا كُنْتِ عَنِّي رَاضِيَةً فَإِنَّكِ تَقُولِينَ لاَ وَرَبِّ مُحَمَّدٍ، وَإِذَا كُنْتِ غَضْبَى قُلْتِ لاَ وَرَبِّ إِبْرَاهِيمَ ". قَالَتْ قُلْتُ أَجَلْ وَاللَّهِ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ، مَا أَهْجُرُ إِلاَّ اسْمَكَ.
A'isha Narrated from:
Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said to her, "I know when you are pleased with me or angry with me." I said, "Whence do you know that?" He said, "When you are pleased with me, you say, 'No, by the Lord of Muhammad,' but when you are angry with me, then you say, 'No, by the Lord of Abraham.' " Thereupon I said, "Yes (you are right), but by Allah, O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ), I leave nothing but your name."
[1] She does not feel less affectionate at the time of her anger. The only consequence of her anger is not to mention his name.Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 5228In-book reference : Book 67, Hadith 161USC-MSA web (English) reference : Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 155
Summary of Sahih Bukhari Hadith 5228
This hadith shows a gentle moment between the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) and Aisha. He told her that he knew when she was pleased with him and when she was angry with him. When she asked how he knew, he explained that when she was pleased, she would say, "No, by the Lord of Muhammad," and when she was angry, she would say, "No, by the Lord of Abraham." Aisha accepted that he was right and said that she only left his name. This hadith about marital feelings teaches that emotions can show through small words. It also shows calm communication. The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) did not shame her. He observed with kindness, and Aisha replied honestly while still showing love and respect.
What we learn from this hadith
- Feelings in marriage can appear in small changes of speech.
- The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) noticed Aisha's emotions gently.
- Aisha answered honestly without hiding her feelings.
- The exchange shows care, love, and calm communication.
