68/3. Chapter:
Sahih Bukhari 5255 — Respecting a Woman's Response
Should a man tell his wife face to face that she is divorced
Hadith on Marriage Respect: The Prophet Sent Her Back With Kindness
Sahih Bukhari : 5255
Sahih BukhariHadith Number 5255
حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو نُعَيْمٍ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ غَسِيلٍ، عَنْ حَمْزَةَ بْنِ أَبِي أُسَيْدٍ، عَنْ أَبِي أُسَيْدٍ ـ رضى الله عنه ـ قَالَ خَرَجْنَا مَعَ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم حَتَّى انْطَلَقْنَا إِلَى حَائِطٍ يُقَالُ لَهُ الشَّوْطُ، حَتَّى انْتَهَيْنَا إِلَى حَائِطَيْنِ فَجَلَسْنَا بَيْنَهُمَا فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم " اجْلِسُوا هَا هُنَا ". وَدَخَلَ وَقَدْ أُتِيَ بِالْجَوْنِيَّةِ، فَأُنْزِلَتْ فِي بَيْتٍ فِي نَخْلٍ فِي بَيْتٍ أُمَيْمَةُ بِنْتُ النُّعْمَانِ بْنِ شَرَاحِيلَ وَمَعَهَا دَايَتُهَا حَاضِنَةٌ لَهَا، فَلَمَّا دَخَلَ عَلَيْهَا النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ " هَبِي نَفْسَكِ لِي ". قَالَتْ وَهَلْ تَهَبُ الْمَلِكَةُ نَفْسَهَا لِلسُّوقَةِ. قَالَ فَأَهْوَى بِيَدِهِ يَضَعُ يَدَهُ عَلَيْهَا لِتَسْكُنَ فَقَالَتْ أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنْكَ. فَقَالَ " قَدْ عُذْتِ بِمَعَاذٍ ". ثُمَّ خَرَجَ عَلَيْنَا، فَقَالَ " يَا أَبَا أُسَيْدٍ اكْسُهَا رَازِقِيَّتَيْنِ وَأَلْحِقْهَا بِأَهْلِهَا".
Abu Usaid Narrated from:
We went out with the Prophet (ﷺ) to a garden called Ash-Shaut till we reached two walls between which we sat down. The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Sit here," and went in (the garden). The Jauniyya (a lady from Bani Jaun) had been brought and lodged in a house in a date-palm garden in the home of Umaima bint An- Nu`man bin Sharahil, and her wet nurse was with her.When the Prophet (ﷺ) entered upon her, he said to her, "Give me yourself (in marriage) as a gift." She said, "Can a princess give herself in marriage to an ordinary man?" The Prophet (ﷺ) raised his hand to pat her so that she might become tranquil. She said, "I seek refuge with Allah from you." He said, "You have sought refuge with One Who gives refuge. Then the Prophet (ﷺ) came out to us and said, "O Abu Usaid! Give her two white linen dresses to wear and let her go back to her family."
Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 5255In-book reference : Book 68, Hadith 5USC-MSA web (English) reference : Vol. 7, Book 63, Hadith 182
Summary of Sahih Bukhari Hadith 5255
This hadith on marriage respect gives more detail about the Jauniyya. She was brought and lodged in a date-palm garden with her wet nurse. When the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) entered, he said, "Give me yourself in marriage as a gift." She replied in a proud way, and when he raised his hand to calm her, she said, "I seek refuge with Allah from you." The Prophet answered that she had sought refuge with One Who gives refuge. He then told Abu Usaid to give her two white linen dresses and send her back to her family. The hadith shows that her rejection was not met with harshness. She was released and given clothing.
What we learn from this hadith
- The woman's request for refuge was honored.
- The Prophet did not force the marriage forward.
- She was sent back to her family with clothing.
- A tense moment was handled with restraint.
