79/9. Chapter:
Sahih Bukhari 6237 — Start Salam After Dispute
To greet everybody
Start Salam After a Dispute: A Hadith on Reconciliation
Sahih Bukhari : 6237
Sahih BukhariHadith Number 6237
حَدَّثَنَا عَلِيُّ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ، حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ، عَنِ الزُّهْرِيِّ، عَنْ عَطَاءِ بْنِ يَزِيدَ اللَّيْثِيِّ، عَنْ أَبِي أَيُّوبَ ـ رضى الله عنه ـ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ " لاَ يَحِلُّ لِمُسْلِمٍ أَنْ يَهْجُرَ أَخَاهُ فَوْقَ ثَلاَثٍ، يَلْتَقِيَانِ فَيَصُدُّ هَذَا، وَيَصُدُّ هَذَا، وَخَيْرُهُمَا الَّذِي يَبْدَأُ بِالسَّلاَمِ ". وَذَكَرَ سُفْيَانُ أَنَّهُ سَمِعَهُ مِنْهُ ثَلاَثَ مَرَّاتٍ.
Abu Aiyub Narrated from:
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "It is not lawful for a Muslim to desert (not to speak to) his brother Muslim for more than three days while meeting, one turns his face to one side and the other turns his face to the other side. Lo! The better of the two is the one who starts greeting the other."
Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 6237In-book reference : Book 79, Hadith 11USC-MSA web (English) reference : Vol. 8, Book 74, Hadith 254
Summary of Sahih Bukhari Hadith 6237
This Hadith teaches a clear limit for staying away from a Muslim brother. The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said it is not lawful for a Muslim to desert his brother Muslim for more than three days. He described two people meeting while each turns away from the other. Then he said that the better of the two is the one who starts greeting the other. The Hadith about ending a dispute with salam gives a practical first step toward repair. It does not need a long speech. Beginning with salam can open the door after silence, coldness, or hurt feelings.
What we learn from this hadith
- A Muslim should not desert his Muslim brother for more than three days.
- Turning away when meeting is mentioned as part of the problem.
- The better person is the one who begins salam.
- Salam can be a first step toward repairing a strained relationship.
