9/10. Chapter:
Sunan Ibn Majah 1868 — Respect in Marriage Proposals
A man should not propose marriage to a woman to whom his brother already proposed
Hadith About Respecting an Existing Marriage Proposal
Sunan Ibn Majah : 1868
Sunan Ibn MajahHadith Number 1868
حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ حَكِيمٍ، حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، عَنْ عُبَيْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عُمَرَ، عَنْ نَافِعٍ، عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ " لاَ يَخْطُبِ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ أَخِيهِ " .
Ibn 'Umar Narrated from:
The Messenger of Allah said: “A man should not propose to a woman to whom his brother has already proposed.”
Reference : Sunan Ibn Majah 1868In-book reference : Book 9, Hadith 24English translation : Vol. 3, Book 9, Hadith 1868
Summary of Sunan Ibn Majah Hadith 1868
This narration from Ibn Umar gives the same clear teaching: a man should not propose to a woman to whom his brother has already proposed. The main topic is marriage proposal etiquette in Islam. The hadith protects the proposal process from unfair competition and personal harm. It also teaches that marriage is not only about desire; it must be approached with manners and respect. The wording is brief, so we should not add conditions that are not present in the text. A person searching for do not propose over your brother hadith will find the core message here: do not step into a proposal that is already underway.
What we learn from this hadith
- Existing proposals should be respected.
- A Muslim should avoid causing tension in marriage talks.
- The hadith teaches restraint before marriage.
- Fair conduct matters even before the marriage contract.
