Al-Lu'lu Wal-Marjan 536 — The Book of Funerals (Al-Janâ'iz)

‘Abdullâh bin ‘Ubaidullâh bin Abî Mulaika Narrated from:

One of the daughters of ‘Uthmân رضى الله عنه died at Makka. We went to attend her funeral procession. Ibn ‘Umar and Ibn ‘Abbâs رضى الله عنهم were also present. I sat in between them (or said, I sat beside one of them. Then a man came and sat beside me.) ‘Abdullâh bin ‘Umar رضى الله عنهما said to ‘Amr bin ‘Uthmân رضى الله عنه, “Will you not prohibit crying as Allâh’s Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم has said, ‘The dead person is tortured by the crying of his relatives?’ ”Ibn ‘Abbâs رضى الله عنهما said, “‘Umar رضى الله عنه used to say so.” Then he added, narrating: I accompanied ‘Umar رضى الله عنه on a journey from Makka till we reached Al-Baida’. There he saw some travellers in the shade of a Samura (a kind of forest tree). He said (to me). ‘Go and see who those travellers are.’ So I went and saw that one of them was Suhaib رضى الله عنه. I informed ‘Umar رضى الله عنه about that, who, then asked me to call him. So I went back to Suhaib رضى الله عنه and said to him, ‘Depart and proceed to chief of the faithful believers.’ Later, when ‘Umar رضى الله عنه was stabbed, Suhaib رضى الله عنه came weeping and saying, ‘O my brother, O my friend!' On that 'Umar رضي الله عنه said to him, 'O Suhaib! Are you weeping for me while the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said, 'The dead person is punished by the weeping (crying aloud) of some of his relatives?' "Ibn 'Abbâs رضي الله عنهما added, "When 'Umar رضي الله عنه died I told that to 'Âisha رضي الله عنها and she said, "May Allâh be merciful to 'Umar رضي الله عنه. By Allâh, Allâh's Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم did not say that a believer is punished by the weeping of his relatives, but he said, 'Allâh increases the punishment of a disbeliever because of the weeping (crying aloud) of his relatives.' " 'Âisha رضي الله عنها further added, "The Qur'ân is sufficient for you (to clear up this point) As Allâh تعالى has stated:'No bearer of burdens shall bear the burden of another.' " (V.35:18 — (V.6:164).Ibn 'Abbâs رضي الله عنهما then said, "Only Allâh تعالى makes to whom He wills laugh, and makes to whom he wills weep." Ibn 'Umar رضي الله عنهما did not say anything after that. Sahîh Al-Bukhârî, Hadîth No. 375, Vol. 2)