39/10. Chapter:
Sunan an-Nasai 4163 — Make Your Parents Smile Again
Pledging To Emigrate (Al-Hijrah)
Rights of Parents in Islam: Return and Make Them Smile
Sunan an-Nasai : 4163
Sunan an-NasaiHadith Number 4163
أَخْبَرَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ حَبِيبِ بْنِ عَرَبِيٍّ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادُ بْنُ زَيْدٍ، عَنْ عَطَاءِ بْنِ السَّائِبِ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو، أَنَّ رَجُلاً، أَتَى النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَقَالَ إِنِّي جِئْتُ أُبَايِعُكَ عَلَى الْهِجْرَةِ وَلَقَدْ تَرَكْتُ أَبَوَىَّ يَبْكِيَانِ . قَالَ " ارْجِعْ إِلَيْهِمَا فَأَضْحِكْهُمَا كَمَا أَبْكَيْتَهُمَا " .
'Abdullah bin 'Amr Narrated from:
A man came to the Prophet and said: "I have come pledging to emigrate (Hijrah), and I have left my parents weeping." He said: "Go back to them, and make them smile as you made them weep."
Reference : Sunan an-Nasa'i 4163In-book reference : Book 39, Hadith 15English translation : Vol. 5, Book 39, Hadith 4168
Summary of Sunan an-Nasai Hadith 4163
This Hadith about parents tells of a man who came to pledge for Hijrah after leaving his mother and father in tears. The Prophet told him to go back to them and make them smile in the same way that he had made them weep. The answer is direct and personal. The man's wish to make a serious religious commitment did not erase the pain he had caused his parents. He was told to repair that harm by returning to them. For anyone searching for the rights of parents in Islam, this narration shows the weight given to their feelings in this case. It also teaches that a good aim should not make a person ignore a clear duty toward his parents.
What we learn from this hadith
- Do not ignore the pain your actions cause your parents.
- When you make your parents weep, take steps to comfort them.
- A serious religious intention does not remove the need to treat parents well.
- Repairing harm may require returning and making amends.
