11/3. Chapter:
Jami at-Tirmidhi 1085 — Marry for Religion and Character
What Has Been Related About: If You Are Pleased With Someone's Religion Then Marry Him
Hadith on Accepting a Suitor with Deen and Character
Jami at-Tirmidhi : 1085
Jami at-TirmidhiHadith Number 1085
حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَمْرٍو السَّوَّاقُ الْبَلْخِيُّ، حَدَّثَنَا حَاتِمُ بْنُ إِسْمَاعِيلَ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ مُسْلِمِ بْنِ هُرْمُزَ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدٍ، وَسَعِيدٍ، ابْنَىْ عُبَيْدٍ عَنْ أَبِي حَاتِمٍ الْمُزَنِيِّ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم " إِذَا جَاءَكُمْ مَنْ تَرْضَوْنَ دِينَهُ وَخُلُقَهُ فَأَنْكِحُوهُ إِلاَّ تَفْعَلُوا تَكُنْ فِتْنَةٌ فِي الأَرْضِ وَفَسَادٌ " . قَالُوا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ وَإِنْ كَانَ فِيهِ قَالَ " إِذَا جَاءَكُمْ مَنْ تَرْضَوْنَ دِينَهُ وَخُلُقَهُ فَأَنْكِحُوهُ " . ثَلاَثَ مَرَّاتٍ . قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى هَذَا حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ غَرِيبٌ . وَأَبُو حَاتِمٍ الْمُزَنِيُّ لَهُ صُحْبَةٌ وَلاَ نَعْرِفُ لَهُ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم غَيْرَ هَذَا الْحَدِيثِ .
Abu Hatim Al-Muzani Narrated from:
The Messenger Of Allah Said: "When Someone Whose Religion And Character You Are Pleased With Comes To You Then Marry (Her To) Him. If You Do Not Do So, Then There Will Be Turmoil (Fitnah) In The Land And Discord (Fasad). If You Do Not Do So, Then There Will Be Turmoil (Fitnah) In The Land And Discord (Fasad)." They Said: "O Messenger Of Allah! What If There Was Something About Him?" He Said: "When Someone Whose Religion And Character You Are Pleased With Comes To You Then Marry Him." (And He (Pbuh) Said This) Three Times.
[1] See previous note.[2] "Meaning something like little wealth or inadequacy." ( Tuhfat Al-Ahwadhi ).Reference : Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1085In-book reference : Book 11, Hadith 6English translation : Vol. 2, Book 6, Hadith 1085
Summary of Jami at-Tirmidhi Hadith 1085
This Hadith repeats the same main message with strong emphasis. Abu Hatim Al-Muzani narrates that the Messenger of Allah said when someone comes whose religion and character you are pleased with, then marry her to him. The warning about fitnah and fasad is mentioned, and when people asked, “What if there was something about him?” the Prophet repeated the standard of religion and character three times. The repetition is the center of the narration. It shows that deen and character should not be pushed aside when looking at a marriage proposal. The Hadith does not list every possible case, so the safe explanation is that these two qualities are the key measure mentioned in the text.
What we learn from this hadith
- The Prophet repeated the standard of religion and character three times.
- A suitable suitor should not be dismissed without care.
- The narration warns that ignoring this guidance can bring fitnah and fasad.
- Marriage decisions should give serious weight to faith and conduct.
