11/5. Chapter:
Jami at-Tirmidhi 1087 — Looking Before Marriage
What Has Been Related About Looking at The Proposed Woman
Hadith About Looking at a Woman Before Marriage
Jami at-Tirmidhi : 1087
Jami at-TirmidhiHadith Number 1087
حَدَّثَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ مَنِيعٍ، حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ أَبِي زَائِدَةَ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي عَاصِمُ بْنُ سُلَيْمَانَ، هُوَ الأَحْوَلُ عَنْ بَكْرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ الْمُزَنِيِّ، عَنِ الْمُغِيرَةِ بْنِ شُعْبَةَ، أَنَّهُ خَطَبَ امْرَأَةً فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم " انْظُرْ إِلَيْهَا فَإِنَّهُ أَحْرَى أَنْ يُؤْدَمَ بَيْنَكُمَا " . وَفِي الْبَابِ عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ مَسْلَمَةَ وَجَابِرٍ وَأَنَسٍ وَأَبِي حُمَيْدٍ وَأَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ . قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى هَذَا حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ . وَقَدْ ذَهَبَ بَعْضُ أَهْلِ الْعِلْمِ إِلَى هَذَا الْحَدِيثِ وَقَالُوا لاَ بَأْسَ أَنْ يَنْظُرَ إِلَيْهَا مَا لَمْ يَرَ مِنْهَا مُحَرَّمًا . وَهُوَ قَوْلُ أَحْمَدَ وَإِسْحَاقَ . وَمَعْنَى قَوْلِهِ " أَحْرَى أَنْ يُؤْدَمَ بَيْنَكُمَا " قَالَ أَحْرَى أَنْ تَدُومَ الْمَوَدَّةُ بَيْنَكُمَا .
Bakr bin 'Abdullah Al-Muzani Narrated from:
Al-Mughirah Bin Shu'Bah Proposed To A Woman, So The Prophet Said: "Look At Her, For Indeed That Is More Likely To Make Things Better Between The Two Of You."
Reference : Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1087In-book reference : Book 11, Hadith 8English translation : Vol. 2, Book 6, Hadith 1087
Summary of Jami at-Tirmidhi Hadith 1087
This Hadith is about a proposal and knowing the person before marriage in the way mentioned by the Prophet. Al-Mughirah bin Shu'bah proposed to a woman, and the Prophet told him to look at her. The reason given in the narration is that it is more likely to make things better between the two of them. Abu Isa also explains the meaning as being more likely for affection to last between them, and the text mentions that some scholars allowed looking as long as one does not see what is unlawful. Keeping to the Hadith, the main point is simple: before marriage, seeing the person can help the couple begin with clearer understanding and better harmony.
What we learn from this hadith
- The Prophet advised Al-Mughirah to look at the woman he proposed to.
- The reason given is that it may help things be better between them.
- The narration connects marriage choice with real-life comfort.
- The text includes a limit mentioned by scholars: not seeing what is unlawful.
