12/16. Chapter:
Jami at-Tirmidhi 1171 — Warning Against Private Entry
What has been related about it being disliked to enter upon women whose husbands are absent
Hadith About Entering Upon Women
Jami at-Tirmidhi : 1171
Jami at-TirmidhiHadith Number 1171
حَدَّثَنَا قُتَيْبَةُ، حَدَّثَنَا اللَّيْثُ، عَنْ يَزِيدَ بْنِ أَبِي حَبِيبٍ، عَنْ أَبِي الْخَيْرِ، عَنْ عُقْبَةَ بْنِ عَامِرٍ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ " إِيَّاكُمْ وَالدُّخُولَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ " . فَقَالَ رَجُلٌ مِنَ الأَنْصَارِ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَفَرَأَيْتَ الْحَمْوَ قَالَ " الْحَمْوُ الْمَوْتُ " . قَالَ وَفِي الْبَابِ عَنْ عُمَرَ وَجَابِرٍ وَعَمْرِو بْنِ الْعَاصِ . قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى حَدِيثُ عُقْبَةَ بْنِ عَامِرٍ حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ صَحِيحٌ . وَإِنَّمَا مَعْنَى كَرَاهِيَةِ الدُّخُولِ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ عَلَى نَحْوِ مَا رُوِيَ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ " لاَ يَخْلُوَنَّ رَجُلٌ بِامْرَأَةٍ إِلاَّ كَانَ ثَالِثَهُمَا الشَّيْطَانُ " . وَمَعْنَى قَوْلِهِ " الْحَمْوُ " . يُقَالُ هُوَ أَخُو الزَّوْجِ كَأَنَّهُ كَرِهَ لَهُ أَنْ يَخْلُوَ بِهَا .
'Uqbah bin 'Amir Narrated from:
The Messenger of Allah said: “Beware Of Entering Upon Women.” So A Man From The Ansar Said: ‘”O Messenger Of Allah! What Do You Think About Hamu? So He Said: “The Hamu Is Death.”
Reference : Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1171In-book reference : Book 12, Hadith 26English translation : Vol. 1, Book 7, Hadith 1171
Summary of Jami at-Tirmidhi Hadith 1171
This Hadith about entering upon women gives a serious warning about careless private access. Uqbah bin Amir narrated that the Messenger of Allah said, “Beware of entering upon women.” When a man from the Ansar asked about the hamu, the Prophet replied, “The hamu is death.” The narration itself explains that hamu refers to a husband’s brother and that the dislike is connected to being alone with her. The Hadith is direct and careful. It does not accuse every person, but it warns against a situation that can lead to danger. The main message is to protect modesty, privacy, and family trust.
What we learn from this hadith
- Private entry upon women is treated as a serious matter.
- The Hadith warns especially about careless access by a husband’s male relative.
- Family closeness does not remove the need for proper boundaries.
- Modesty includes protecting situations that may lead to temptation.
