12/19. Chapter:
Jami at-Tirmidhi 1174 — Do Not Annoy the Husband
The threat for the woman who annoys her husband
Hadith About Not Annoying the Husband
Jami at-Tirmidhi : 1174
Jami at-TirmidhiHadith Number 1174
حَدَّثَنَا الْحَسَنُ بْنُ عَرَفَةَ، حَدَّثَنَا إِسْمَاعِيلُ بْنُ عَيَّاشٍ، عَنْ بَحِيرِ بْنِ سَعْدٍ، عَنْ خَالِدِ بْنِ مَعْدَانَ، عَنْ كَثِيرِ بْنِ مُرَّةَ الْحَضْرَمِيِّ، عَنْ مُعَاذِ بْنِ جَبَلٍ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ " لاَ تُؤْذِي امْرَأَةٌ زَوْجَهَا فِي الدُّنْيَا إِلاَّ قَالَتْ زَوْجَتُهُ مِنَ الْحُورِ الْعِينِ لاَ تُؤْذِيهِ قَاتَلَكِ اللَّهُ فَإِنَّمَا هُوَ عِنْدَكِ دَخِيلٌ يُوشِكُ أَنْ يُفَارِقَكِ إِلَيْنَا " . قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى هَذَا حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ غَرِيبٌ لاَ نَعْرِفُهُ إِلاَّ مِنْ هَذَا الْوَجْهِ . وَرِوَايَةُ إِسْمَاعِيلَ بْنِ عَيَّاشٍ عَنِ الشَّامِيِّينَ أَصْلَحُ وَلَهُ عَنْ أَهْلِ الْحِجَازِ وَأَهْلِ الْعِرَاقِ مَنَاكِيرُ .
Mu'adh bin Jabal Narrated from:
The Prophet said: “No Woman Annoys Her Husband In The World Except That His Wife Among The Al-Huril-Ain Said: ‘Do Not Annoy Him, May Allah Destroy You, He Is Only Like A Guest With, Soon He Will Part From You For Us.’”
Reference : Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1174In-book reference : Book 12, Hadith 29English translation : Vol. 1, Book 7, Hadith 1174
Summary of Jami at-Tirmidhi Hadith 1174
This Hadith about not annoying the husband gives a warning about harming a spouse through hurtful behavior. Mu’adh bin Jabal narrated that the Prophet said no woman annoys her husband in the world except that his wife from al-Hur al-Ain says, “Do not annoy him,” and reminds her that he is only like a guest with her and will soon part from her. The Hadith focuses on avoiding harm and annoyance in marriage. It does not give permission for unfair treatment by a husband; it speaks directly to one kind of wrongdoing by a wife. The message is to treat the marriage bond with care and not cause needless hurt.
What we learn from this hadith
- A wife should avoid harming or annoying her husband.
- Marriage should not be treated as a place for needless hurt.
- The Hadith reminds spouses that worldly life is temporary.
- Good conduct in marriage has spiritual weight.
