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Sunan Abi Dawud 273 — Control and Boundaries During Menses
A Person Has Relations With Her Other Than Intercourse
Hadith About Intimacy During Menstruation and Control of Desire
Sunan Abi Dawud : 273
Sunan Abi DawudHadith Number 273
حَدَّثَنَا عُثْمَانُ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ، حَدَّثَنَا جَرِيرٌ، عَنِ الشَّيْبَانِيِّ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ الأَسْوَدِ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، - رضى الله عنها - قَالَتْ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَأْمُرُنَا فِي فَوْحِ حَيْضِنَا أَنْ نَتَّزِرَ ثُمَّ يُبَاشِرُنَا وَأَيُّكُمْ يَمْلِكُ إِرْبَهُ كَمَا كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَمْلِكُ إِرْبَهُ .
A'isha Narrated from:
The Messenger of Allah (May peace be upon him) would ask us in the beginning of our menstruation to tie the waist-wrapper. Then he would embrace us. And who amongst you can have as much control over his desire as the Messenger of Allah (May peace be upon him) had over his desire?
Reference : Sunan Abi Dawud 273In-book reference : Book 1, Hadith 273English translation : Book 1, Hadith 273
Summary of Sunan Abi Dawud Hadith 273
Aishah says the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم would ask them at the beginning of menstruation to tie the waist-wrapper, and then he would embrace them. She then adds a clear reminder: who among you can control his desire as the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم controlled his desire? This hadith is searched as “control desire menstruation hadith” and “waist wrapper menstruation hadith.” The teaching is balanced. The narration mentions affection and embrace, but it also warns readers not to ignore self-control. The beginning of menstruation is named, the waist-wrapper is named, and the Prophet’s control is named. These are the points the explanation should stay with.
What we learn from this hadith
- The waist-wrapper was tied at the beginning of menstruation.
- The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم embraced, while keeping control.
- Aishah reminds others not to assume they have the same level of control.
