64/44. Chapter:
Sahih Bukhari 4268 — Restraint After Loss
The expedition of Mu`tah to the land of Syria
Hadith About Restraint in Grief: Abdullah bin Rawaha's Sister
Sahih Bukhari : 4268
Sahih BukhariHadith Number 4268
حَدَّثَنَا قُتَيْبَةُ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْثَرُ، عَنْ حُصَيْنٍ، عَنِ الشَّعْبِيِّ، عَنِ النُّعْمَانِ بْنِ بَشِيرٍ، قَالَ أُغْمِيَ عَلَى عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ رَوَاحَةَ بِهَذَا، فَلَمَّا مَاتَ لَمْ تَبْكِ عَلَيْهِ.
Ash-Sha'bi Narrated from:
An Nu`man bin Bashir said, "Abdullah bin Rawaha fell down unconscious.." (and mentioned the above Hadith adding, "Thereupon, when he died she (i.e. his sister) did not weep over him."
Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 4268In-book reference : Book 64, Hadith 302USC-MSA web (English) reference : Vol. 5, Book 59, Hadith 567
Summary of Sahih Bukhari Hadith 4268
This hadith continues the report about Abdullah bin Rawaha and his sister. The earlier narration says she cried loudly and praised him while he was unconscious. This report adds that when he later died, she did not weep over him. The point is simple and close to the text: after what happened, she changed her response. The hadith about restraint in grief shows that a person can learn from a warning and act differently afterward. It does not erase sadness, and it does not say there was no feeling of loss. It only tells us that she did not weep over him in the way described before. This makes the hadith useful for searches about mourning, wailing, and careful speech.
What we learn from this hadith
- A person can change their behavior after receiving a warning.
- The report shows restraint after the death of Abdullah bin Rawaha.
- Grief should not lead a person to repeat words or actions shown as blameworthy in the text.
