78/38. Chapter:
Sahih Bukhari 6032 — Polite Conduct With Difficult People
The Prophet (saws) was neithr a Fahish nor Mutafahhish
Hadith About Polite Behavior With Harmful People
Sahih Bukhari : 6032
Sahih BukhariHadith Number 6032
حَدَّثَنَا عَمْرُو بْنُ عِيسَى، حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ سَوَاءٍ، حَدَّثَنَا رَوْحُ بْنُ الْقَاسِمِ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ الْمُنْكَدِرِ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، أَنَّ رَجُلاً، اسْتَأْذَنَ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَلَمَّا رَآهُ قَالَ " بِئْسَ أَخُو الْعَشِيرَةِ، وَبِئْسَ ابْنُ الْعَشِيرَةِ ". فَلَمَّا جَلَسَ تَطَلَّقَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فِي وَجْهِهِ وَانْبَسَطَ إِلَيْهِ، فَلَمَّا انْطَلَقَ الرَّجُلُ قَالَتْ لَهُ عَائِشَةُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ حِينَ رَأَيْتَ الرَّجُلَ قُلْتَ لَهُ كَذَا وَكَذَا، ثُمَّ تَطَلَّقْتَ فِي وَجْهِهِ وَانْبَسَطْتَ إِلَيْهِ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم " يَا عَائِشَةُ مَتَى عَهِدْتِنِي فَحَّاشًا، إِنَّ شَرَّ النَّاسِ عِنْدَ اللَّهِ مَنْزِلَةً يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ مَنْ تَرَكَهُ النَّاسُ اتِّقَاءَ شَرِّهِ ".
A'isha Narrated from:
A man asked permission to enter upon the Prophet. When the Prophet (ﷺ) saw him, he said, "What an evil brother of his tribe! And what an evil son of his tribe!" When that man sat down, the Prophet (ﷺ) behaved with him in a nice and polite manner and was completely at ease with him.When that person had left, 'Aisha said (to the Prophet). "O Allah's Apostle! When you saw that man, you said so-and-so about him, then you showed him a kind and polite behavior, and you enjoyed his company?" Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "O 'Aisha! Have you ever seen me speaking a bad and dirty language? (Remember that) the worst people in Allah's sight on the Day of Resurrection will be those whom the people leave (undisturbed) to be away from their evil (deeds)."
Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 6032In-book reference : Book 78, Hadith 62USC-MSA web (English) reference : Vol. 8, Book 73, Hadith 59
Summary of Sahih Bukhari Hadith 6032
This Hadith about polite behavior shows a careful balance in the Prophet’s manners. Before the man entered, the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم described him in a negative way. But when the man sat with him, the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم met him with a kind and polite manner. Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her, noticed this and asked about it. The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم answered by pointing to his own clean speech and then warned that a bad position belongs to the person whom people leave alone because of his evil. The Hadith does not teach fake friendship. It teaches controlled conduct, clean language, and wise dealing with someone whose behavior may harm others. It is a strong lesson in Islamic manners and avoiding dirty speech.
What we learn from this hadith
- Polite behavior can be used when dealing with difficult people.
- The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم did not use dirty language as a habit.
- People may avoid a harmful person to stay safe from his evil.
- Good manners include control of speech even in tense situations.
