Mishkat al-Masabih 4638 — Manners

A'isha Narrated from:

A group of Jews sought permission to visit the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم, saying (as they came in), 'as saam alaykum (death came to you).' I retorted, 'Rather, death be upon you and the curse.' He said, 'O Ayshah, surely Allah is Mild. He loves mildness in all affairs!' I submitted, 'Did you not hear what they had said?' He said, 'Indeed, I did say: and the same be on you!' According to another version: 'the same be on you,' without mentioning, 'and!'According to a version of Bukhari, she said that the Jews came to the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم and said, 'as saam alayka' Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم and said, "as saam alayka' (death be on you) and he said, "Wa alaykum (the same be on all of you)." And, Sayyidah Ayshah رضي الله عنها said, "As saam alaykum (the same be on all of you) and the curse of Allah be on you and His wrath be on you."Then Allah's Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم said, "Be mild, O Ayshah! You must be mild and keep away from rudeness and harshness.. She asked, "Did you not hear what they said?" He asked in return, "Did you not hear what I did say in response to them? My prayer is heard concerning them but their prayer is not heard concerning me." According to a version of Muslim: He said, "Do not be a rude speaker. Surely, Allah does not like rudeness and the rude speaker." [2]