17/18. Chapter:
Sahih Muslim 1468b — Seeing Good in Marriage
Advice with regard to women
Hadith About Not Hating Wife and Seeing Good
Sahih Muslim : 1468b
Sahih MuslimHadith Number 1468b
وَحَدَّثَنِي إِبْرَاهِيمُ بْنُ مُوسَى الرَّازِيُّ، حَدَّثَنَا عِيسَى، - يَعْنِي ابْنَ يُونُسَ - حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْحَمِيدِ بْنُ جَعْفَرٍ، عَنْ عِمْرَانَ بْنِ أَبِي أَنَسٍ، عَنْ عُمَرَ بْنِ الْحَكَمِ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم " لاَ يَفْرَكْ مُؤْمِنٌ مُؤْمِنَةً إِنْ كَرِهَ مِنْهَا خُلُقًا رَضِيَ مِنْهَا آخَرَ " . أَوْ قَالَ " غَيْرَهُ " .
Abu Hurairah Narrated from:
Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) reported Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) as saying: A believing man should not hate a believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another.
Reference : Sahih Muslim 1468bIn-book reference : Book 17, Hadith 81USC-MSA web (English) reference : Book 8, Hadith 3469
Summary of Sahih Muslim Hadith 1468b
This hadith about not hating wife gives a calm rule for married life. The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم says that a believing man should not hate a believing woman. If he dislikes one of her characteristics, he may still be pleased with another. The message is simple and direct: do not reduce a person to one fault. In marriage, feelings can become strong when one habit, word, or behavior hurts. This narration teaches balance. A husband is told to notice the good beside the thing he dislikes. The hadith does not deny that dislike can happen. It guides the believer to keep fairness, patience, and a wider view.
What we learn from this hadith
- Do not let one disliked trait make you hate the whole person.
- Look for good qualities even when something bothers you.
- Faith should shape how a husband handles feelings in marriage.
- Fairness in marriage means seeing more than one side of a person.
