10/61. Chapter:
Jami at-Tirmidhi 1055 — Aishah Visits Her Brother’s Grave
What Has Been Related About Women Visiting Graves
Report About Aishah Visiting Abdur-Rahman’s Grave
Jami at-Tirmidhi : 1055
Jami at-TirmidhiHadith Number 1055
حَدَّثَنَا الْحُسَيْنُ بْنُ حُرَيْثٍ، حَدَّثَنَا عِيسَى بْنُ يُونُسَ، عَنِ ابْنِ جُرَيْجٍ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ أَبِي مُلَيْكَةَ، قَالَ تُوُفِّيَ عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ أَبِي بَكْرٍ بِحُبْشِيٍّ . قَالَ فَحُمِلَ إِلَى مَكَّةَ فَدُفِنَ فِيهَا فَلَمَّا قَدِمَتْ عَائِشَةُ أَتَتْ قَبْرَ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ أَبِي بَكْرٍ فَقَالَتْ وَكُنَّا كَنَدْمَانَىْ جَذِيمَةَ حِقْبَةً مِنَ الدَّهْرِ حَتَّى قِيلَ لَنْ يَتَصَدَّعَا فَلَمَّا تَفَرَّقْنَا كَأَنِّي وَمَالِكًا لِطُولِ اجْتِمَاعٍ لَمْ نَبِتْ لَيْلَةً مَعَا ثُمَّ قَالَتْ وَاللَّهِ لَوْ حَضَرْتُكَ مَا دُفِنْتَ إِلاَّ حَيْثُ مُتَّ وَلَوْ شَهِدْتُكَ مَا زُرْتُكَ .
Abdullah bin Abi Mulaikah Narrated from:
Abdur-Rahman Bin Abi Bakr Died In Al-Hubshi" He Said: "He Was Carried To Makkah To Be Buried There. So When Aishah Arrived She Went To The Grave Of Abdur-Rahman Bin Abi Bakr And She Said: "We Were Like Two Drinking Companions Of Jadhimah For Such A Long Time That They Would Say: 'They Will Never Part.' So When We Were Separated It Was As If I And Malik - Due To The Length Of Unity - Never Spent A Night Together."
[1] An area near Makkah.[1] Al-Mubārakpūrī said: "In Sharh Al-Mughnī , Ash-Shamanī said: 'This is Tamīm bin Nuwairah's (that is: Mutamim bin Nuwairah At-Tamīmī as mentioned in Al-Iṣābah ) verse (of poetry) eulogizing his brother Mālik who was killed by Khālid bin Walid'." And he said: "At-Tībī said: 'This Jadhīmah was a king of 'Irāq and Mesopotamia whom the Arabs rallied around while he was the governor of Az-Zabā'." And he said about the drinking companions of Jadhīmah: "They were Mālik and 'Aqil, and they were his drinking companions and comrades for a period of forty years." Tuhfat Al-Ahwadhī. Az-Zabā' is a city on the banks of the Euphrates as mentioned in Mu'jam Al-Buldān .Reference : Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1055In-book reference : Book 10, Hadith 91English translation : Vol. 2, Book 5, Hadith 1055
Summary of Jami at-Tirmidhi Hadith 1055
This report about visiting a grave tells of Abdur-Rahman bin Abi Bakr, who died in Al-Hubshi and was carried to Makkah for burial. When Aishah arrived, she went to his grave and spoke words of grief and closeness. She compared their long companionship to two close drinking companions who were thought never to part. Then she said that if she had been present at his death, he would only have been buried where he died, and if she had witnessed him, she would not have visited him. The text is a report of her personal visit and words. It should not be stretched into a broad ruling by itself. It shows grief, family closeness, and reflection at a grave.
What we learn from this hadith
- The report shows Aishah visiting the grave of her brother.
- Her words express grief and the pain of separation.
- She mentioned that she would have preferred burial where he died if she had been present.
- The narration should be read as a specific report, not a general command.
