27/1. Chapter:
Jami at-Tirmidhi 1897 — Your Mother Then Your Father
What Has Been Related About Being Dutiful To Parents.
Hadith About Honoring Your Mother Then Your Father
Jami at-Tirmidhi : 1897
Jami at-TirmidhiHadith Number 1897
حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ بَشَّارٍ، أَخْبَرَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، أَخْبَرَنَا بَهْزُ بْنُ حَكِيمٍ، حَدَّثَنِي أَبِي، عَنْ جَدِّي، قَالَ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ مَنْ أَبَرُّ قَالَ " أُمَّكَ " . قَالَ قُلْتُ ثُمَّ مَنْ قَالَ " أُمَّكَ " . قَالَ قُلْتُ ثُمَّ مَنْ قَالَ " أُمَّكَ " . قَالَ قُلْتُ ثُمَّ مَنْ قَالَ " ثُمَّ أَبَاكَ ثُمَّ الأَقْرَبَ فَالأَقْرَبَ " . قَالَ وَفِي الْبَابِ عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ وَعَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عُمَرَ وَعَائِشَةَ وَأَبِي الدَّرْدَاءِ . قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى وَبَهْزُ بْنُ حَكِيمٍ هُوَ ابْنُ مُعَاوِيَةَ بْنِ حَيْدَةَ الْقُشَيْرِيُّ . وَهَذَا حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ . وَقَدْ تَكَلَّمَ شُعْبَةُ فِي بَهْزِ بْنِ حَكِيمٍ وَهُوَ ثِقَةٌ عِنْدَ أَهْلِ الْحَدِيثِ وَرَوَى عَنْهُ مَعْمَرٌ وَالثَّوْرِيُّ وَحَمَّادُ بْنُ سَلَمَةَ وَغَيْرُ وَاحِدٍ مِنَ الأَئِمَّةِ .
Bahz bin Hakim Narrated from:
I Said: 'O Messenger Of Allah! Who Most Deserves (My) Reverence?' He Said: 'Your Mother.'" He Said: "I Said: 'Then Who?' He Said: 'Your Mother.'" He Said: "I Said: 'Then Who?' He Said: 'Your Mother.'" He Said: "I Said: 'Then Who?' He Said: 'Then Your Father, Then The Nearest Relatives, Then The Nearest Relatives.'"
Reference : Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1897In-book reference : Book 27, Hadith 1English translation : Vol. 4, Book 1, Hadith 1897
Summary of Jami at-Tirmidhi Hadith 1897
This Hadith about honoring parents is narrated by Bahz bin Hakim from his father, from his grandfather. A man asked the Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) who most deserved his reverence. The Prophet answered, “Your mother,” three times. When the man asked again, he said, “Then your father, then the nearest relatives, then the nearest relatives.” The message is plain and powerful. It gives special weight to the mother, then names the father, then close relatives in order of nearness. Abu Eisa graded the Hadith Hasan and also gave narrator details about Bahz bin Hakim. The core teaching is respect and good treatment within the family.
What we learn from this hadith
- The mother is mentioned three times as deserving reverence.
- The father is named after the mother in this narration.
- The nearest relatives are also given attention in order of closeness.
