27/4. Chapter:
Jami at-Tirmidhi 1902 — Cursing Parents Indirectly
What Has Been Related About Disobeying Parents
Cursing Parents Hadith: Guarding the Tongue
Jami at-Tirmidhi : 1902
Jami at-TirmidhiHadith Number 1902
حَدَّثَنَا قُتَيْبَةُ، حَدَّثَنَا اللَّيْثُ بْنُ سَعْدٍ، عَنِ ابْنِ الْهَادِ، عَنْ سَعْدِ بْنِ إِبْرَاهِيمَ، عَنْ حُمَيْدِ بْنِ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم " مِنَ الْكَبَائِرِ أَنْ يَشْتُمَ الرَّجُلُ وَالِدَيْهِ " . قَالُوا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ وَهَلْ يَشْتُمُ الرَّجُلُ وَالِدَيْهِ قَالَ " نَعَمْ يَسُبُّ أَبَا الرَّجُلِ فَيَشْتُمُ أَبَاهُ وَيَشْتُمُ أُمَّهُ فَيَسُبُّ أُمَّهُ " . قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى هَذَا حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ صَحِيحٌ .
'Abdullah bin 'Amr Narrated from:
The Messenger Of Allah Said: "It Is Among The Greatest Of Sins That A Man Should Curse His Parents." They Said: "O Messenger Of Allah! Does A Man Curse His Parents?" He Said: "Yes. He Verbally Abuses The Father Of A Man, Who In Turn, Verbally Abuses His Father, And He (Retaliates And) Curses His Mother, So He Curses His Mother."
Reference : Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1902In-book reference : Book 27, Hadith 6English translation : Vol. 4, Book 1, Hadith 1902
Summary of Jami at-Tirmidhi Hadith 1902
This hadith about cursing parents teaches that harm can return through our own speech. The people asked how a man could curse his own parents. The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم explained that a person may abuse another man’s father, so the other man abuses his father in return. He may abuse another man’s mother, so the other person abuses his mother in return. The lesson is not only about direct insults. It is also about starting a chain of verbal abuse. In simple terms, a Muslim should not use words that open the door for his parents to be insulted. Guarding the tongue protects honor, family respect, and one’s own standing before Allah.
What we learn from this hadith
- A person may harm his parents indirectly through his own insults.
- Verbal abuse can lead to retaliation and wider harm.
- Respect for parents includes avoiding speech that invites insults against them.
- The tongue should be controlled before anger spreads.
