27/43. Chapter:
Jami at-Tirmidhi 1968 — Limits of Hospitality
What Has Been Related About Hospitality And What Is The Limit Of Hospitality
Hadith About Hospitality and Guest Etiquette
Jami at-Tirmidhi : 1968
Jami at-TirmidhiHadith Number 1968
حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ أَبِي عُمَرَ، حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ، عَنِ ابْنِ عَجْلاَنَ، عَنْ سَعِيدٍ الْمَقْبُرِيِّ، عَنْ أَبِي شُرَيْحٍ الْكَعْبِيِّ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ " الضِّيَافَةُ ثَلاَثَةُ أَيَّامٍ وَجَائِزَتُهُ يَوْمٌ وَلَيْلَةٌ وَمَا أُنْفِقَ عَلَيْهِ بَعْدَ ذَلِكَ فَهُوَ صَدَقَةٌ وَلاَ يَحِلُّ لَهُ أَنْ يَثْوِيَ عِنْدَهُ حَتَّى يُحْرِجَهُ " . وَفِي الْبَابِ عَنْ عَائِشَةَ وَأَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ . وَقَدْ رَوَاهُ مَالِكُ بْنُ أَنَسٍ وَاللَّيْثُ بْنُ سَعْدٍ عَنْ سَعِيدٍ الْمَقْبُرِيِّ . قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى هَذَا حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ صَحِيحٌ . وَأَبُو شُرَيْحٍ الْخُزَاعِيُّ هُوَ الْكَعْبِيُّ وَهُوَ الْعَدَوِيُّ اسْمُهُ خُوَيْلِدُ بْنُ عَمْرٍو . وَمَعْنَى قَوْلِهِ " لاَ يَثْوِي عِنْدَهُ " . يَعْنِي الضَّيْفَ لاَ يُقِيمُ عِنْدَهُ حَتَّى يَشْتَدَّ عَلَى صَاحِبِ الْمَنْزِلِ وَالْحَرَجُ هُوَ الضِّيقُ إِنَّمَا قَوْلُهُ " حَتَّى يُحْرِجَهُ " . يَقُولُ حَتَّى يُضَيِّقَ عَلَيْهِ .
Abu Shuraih al-Ka'bi Narrated from:
The Messenger of Allah said: : "Hospitality Is For Three Days, And His Reward Is A Day And A Night, And Whatever Is Spent On Him After That Is Charity. And It Is Not Lawful For Him (The Guest) To Stay So Long As To Cause Him Harm."
Reference : Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1968In-book reference : Book 27, Hadith 74English translation : Vol. 4, Book 1, Hadith 1968
Summary of Jami at-Tirmidhi Hadith 1968
This hadith about hospitality explains both the right of the guest and the comfort of the host. The Prophet said that hospitality is for three days, and the guest’s reward is a day and a night. He also said that whatever is spent on the guest after that is charity. The narration then gives an important limit: it is not lawful for the guest to stay so long that he causes harm or hardship to the host. The lesson is balanced. Islam encourages hosts to be generous, but it also teaches guests to be thoughtful. A guest should not turn kindness into pressure. Good manners belong to both sides of hospitality.
What we learn from this hadith
- Hospitality is described as three days in this hadith.
- A day and a night are mentioned as the guest’s special right.
- Extra spending after that may be counted as charity.
- A guest should not stay in a way that burdens the host.
