47/79. Chapter:
Jami at-Tirmidhi 3343 — Mercy in Marriage and Manners
Surat "Wash-shams wa duhaha" (Surat Ash-shams)
Hadith About Treating Wives With Mercy
Jami at-Tirmidhi : 3343
Jami at-TirmidhiHadith Number 3343
حَدَّثَنَا هَارُونُ بْنُ إِسْحَاقَ الْهَمْدَانِيُّ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدَةُ، عَنْ هِشَامِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ زَمْعَةَ، قَالَ سَمِعْتُ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَوْمًا يَذْكُرُ النَّاقَةَ وَالَّذِي عَقَرَهَا فَقَالَ "ِ : (إذ انْبَعَثَ أَشْقَاهَا ) انْبَعَثَ لَهَا رَجُلٌ عَارِمٌ عَزِيزٌ مَنِيعٌ فِي رَهْطِهِ مِثْلُ أَبِي زَمْعَةَ " . ثُمَّ سَمِعْتُهُ يَذْكُرُ النِّسَاءَ فَقَالَ " إِلاَمَ يَعْمِدُ أَحَدُكُمْ فَيَجْلِدُ امْرَأَتَهُ جَلْدَ الْعَبْدِ وَلَعَلَّهُ أَنْ يُضَاجِعَهَا مِنْ آخِرِ يَوْمِهِ " . قَالَ ثُمَّ وَعَظَهُمْ فِي ضَحِكِهِمْ مِنَ الضَّرْطَةِ فَقَالَ " إِلاَمَ يَضْحَكُ أَحَدُكُمْ مِمَّا يَفْعَلُ " . قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى هَذَا حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ صَحِيحٌ .
'Abdullah bin Zam'ah Narrated from:
One Day, I Heard The Prophet While He Was Mentioning The She-Camel And The One Who Killed Her. He Said: ‘When Their Most Wicked Went Forth.’ A Strong And Mighty Man Who Was Invincible Among His Tribe, Like Zam’Ah, Went Forth For Her.’ Then I Heard Him Mentioning The Women, So He Said: ‘One Of You Should Not Lash His Wife As A Slave Is Lashed, For Perhaps He Will Lay With Her At The End Of The Day.’” He Said: “Then He Advised Against Laughing When Passing Gas, He Said: ‘One Of You Should Not Laugh At What He Himself Does.’”
Reference : Jami` at-Tirmidhi 3343In-book reference : Book 47, Hadith 395English translation : Vol. 5, Book 44, Hadith 3343
Summary of Jami at-Tirmidhi Hadith 3343
This hadith about treating wives with mercy includes several reminders in one report. First, the Prophet mentioned the she-camel and the man who killed her, describing him as strong and protected among his people. Then he turned to a practical family matter. He asked why one of you would lash his wife like a slave, while he may share closeness with her later the same day. The wording shows the ugly clash between harshness and marital closeness. Then he advised against laughing when someone passes gas, saying a person should not laugh at something he himself does. The main message is gentleness, fairness, and better manners.
What we learn from this hadith
- A husband should not treat his wife with harshness like a slave.
- Close family relationships should not be mixed with cruelty.
- People should avoid mocking others for normal human acts.
- Strength and status do not make wrong actions acceptable.
