49/74. Chapter:
Jami at-Tirmidhi 3945 — Gift Etiquette and Gratitude
About Thaqif And Banu Hanifah
Hadith About Gift Etiquette and Being Satisfied
Jami at-Tirmidhi : 3945
Jami at-TirmidhiHadith Number 3945
حَدَّثَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ مَنِيعٍ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا يَزِيدُ بْنُ هَارُونَ، قَالَ أَخْبَرَنِي أَيُّوبُ، عَنْ سَعِيدٍ الْمَقْبُرِيِّ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، أَنَّ أَعْرَابِيًّا، أَهْدَى لِرَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم بَكْرَةً فَعَوَّضَهُ مِنْهَا سِتَّ بَكَرَاتٍ فَتَسَخَّطَهَا فَبَلَغَ ذَلِكَ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَحَمِدَ اللَّهَ وَأَثْنَى عَلَيْهِ ثُمَّ قَالَ " إِنَّ فُلاَنًا أَهْدَى إِلَىَّ نَاقَةً فَعَوَّضْتُهُ مِنْهَا سِتَّ بَكَرَاتٍ فَظَلَّ سَاخِطًا وَلَقَدْ هَمَمْتُ أَنْ لاَ أَقْبَلَ هَدِيَّةً إِلاَّ مِنْ قُرَشِيٍّ أَوْ أَنْصَارِيٍّ أَوْ ثَقَفِيٍّ أَوْ دَوْسِيٍّ " . وَفِي الْحَدِيثِ كَلاَمٌ أَكْثَرُ مِنْ هَذَا . هَذَا حَدِيثٌ قَدْ رُوِيَ مِنْ غَيْرِ وَجْهٍ عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ وَيَزِيدُ بْنُ هَارُونَ يَرْوِي عَنْ أَيُّوبَ أَبِي الْعَلاَءِ وَهُوَ أَيُّوبُ بْنُ مِسْكِينٍ وَيُقَالُ ابْنُ أَبِي مِسْكِينٍ وَلَعَلَّ هَذَا الْحَدِيثَ الَّذِي رُوِيَ عَنْ أَيُّوبَ عَنْ سَعِيدٍ الْمَقْبُرِيِّ هُوَ أَيُّوبُ أَبُو الْعَلاَءِ .
Abu Hurairah Narrated from:
A Bedouin Gave A Young Female Camel As A Gift To The Messenger Of Allah (ﷺ), So He In Turn For That, Gave Him Six Young Female Camels. But He Was Not Satisfied With That, So When That News Reached The Prophet (ﷺ), He Praised Allah, And Expressed Gratitude To Him, Then Said: 'Indeed So-And-So Gave A Camel To Me As A Gift, So I Reciprocated For That With Six Young She-Camels, Yet He Became Upset. So I Decided That I Would Not Accept A Gift Except From A Quraishi, Or Ansari, Or Dawsi.'"
[1] That is, Yazīd bin Hārūn narrated it: “Ayyūb narrated to us from Sa‘eed” so the discussion is over which Ayyūb it is.Reference : Jami` at-Tirmidhi 3945In-book reference : Book 49, Hadith 345English translation : Vol. 1, Book 46, Hadith 3945
Summary of Jami at-Tirmidhi Hadith 3945
This Hadith about gift etiquette tells of a Bedouin who gave a young female camel to the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم. The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم gave him six young female camels in return, but the man was still not satisfied. When the news reached the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم, he praised Allah and thanked Him before speaking about what happened. The narration shows a clear issue: a gift was given, a return was made, yet the giver became upset. The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم then mentioned that he had decided not to accept a gift except from certain groups. The main lesson stays close to the text: gifts should not become a cause of anger, complaint, or pressure after repayment.
What we learn from this hadith
- The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم gave a return for the gift he received.
- The giver was not satisfied even after receiving six young she-camels.
- The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم praised Allah and expressed gratitude before addressing the matter.
- A gift should not be used as a way to create pressure or dissatisfaction.
