27/33. Chapter:
Jami at-Tirmidhi 1951 — Discipline and Parenting
What Has Been Related About Disciplining The Son
Hadith About Disciplining a Son
Jami at-Tirmidhi : 1951
Jami at-TirmidhiHadith Number 1951
حَدَّثَنَا قُتَيْبَةُ، حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ يَعْلَى، عَنْ نَاصِحٍ، عَنْ سِمَاكِ بْنِ حَرْبٍ، عَنْ جَابِرِ بْنِ سَمُرَةَ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم " لأَنْ يُؤَدِّبَ الرَّجُلُ وَلَدَهُ خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَنْ يَتَصَدَّقَ بِصَاعٍ " . قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى هَذَا حَدِيثٌ غَرِيبٌ . وَنَاصِحٌ هُوَ ابْنُ الْعَلاَءِ كُوفِيٌّ لَيْسَ عِنْدَ أَهْلِ الْحَدِيثِ بِالْقَوِيِّ وَلاَ يُعْرَفُ هَذَا الْحَدِيثُ إِلاَّ مِنْ هَذَا الْوَجْهِ وَنَاصِحٌ شَيْخٌ آخَرُ بَصْرِيٌّ يَرْوِي عَنْ عَمَّارِ بْنِ أَبِي عَمَّارٍ وَغَيْرِهِ هُوَ أَثْبَتُ مِنْ هَذَا .
Jabir bin Samurah Narrated from:
The Messenger of Allah said : "That A Man Should Discipline His Son Is Better For Him Than To Have Given A Sa' In Charity."
Reference : Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1951In-book reference : Book 27, Hadith 57English translation : Vol. 4, Book 1, Hadith 1951
Summary of Jami at-Tirmidhi Hadith 1951
This Hadith about disciplining a son points to the value of teaching a child proper conduct. Jabir bin Sumurah narrated that the Prophet said a man disciplining his son is better for him than giving a sa in charity. The Hadith does not describe harshness or abuse. The word discipline here is tied to training, guidance, and good manners. The main message is that a parent’s effort in shaping a child’s behavior has great value. Charity is good, yet this Hadith highlights the special worth of raising a child with proper conduct. It reminds parents that teaching manners is not a side task. It is part of their daily responsibility.
What we learn from this hadith
- Teaching a child proper conduct has great value.
- A parent’s guidance can be a meaningful form of good work.
- Discipline should be understood as training and teaching, not cruelty.
- Good parenting includes attention to manners and behavior.
