43/59. Chapter:
Jami at-Tirmidhi 2825 — Private Conversation Etiquette
What Has Been Related About 'Two Do Not Converse In Exclusion Of The Third'
Hadith About Private Conversation Etiquette
Jami at-Tirmidhi : 2825
Jami at-TirmidhiHadith Number 2825
حَدَّثَنَا هَنَّادٌ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو مُعَاوِيَةَ، عَنِ الأَعْمَشِ، ح قَالَ وَحَدَّثَنِي ابْنُ أَبِي عُمَرَ، حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ، عَنِ الأَعْمَشِ، عَنْ شَقِيقٍ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم " إِذَا كُنْتُمْ ثَلاَثَةً فَلاَ يَتَنَاجَى اثْنَانِ دُونَ صَاحِبِهِمَا " . وَقَالَ سُفْيَانُ فِي حَدِيثِهِ " لاَ يَتَنَاجَى اثْنَانِ دُونَ الثَّالِثِ فَإِنَّ ذَلِكَ يُحْزِنُهُ " . قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى هَذَا حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ صَحِيحٌ . - وَقَدْ رُوِيَ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم أَنَّهُ قَالَ " لاَ يَتَنَاجَى اثْنَانِ دُونَ وَاحِدٍ فَإِنَّ ذَلِكَ يُؤْذِي الْمُؤْمِنَ وَاللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ يَكْرَهُ أَذَى الْمُؤْمِنِ " . وَفِي الْبَابِ عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ وَأَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ وَابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ .
`Abdullah Narrated from:
The Messenger Of Allah (ﷺ) Said: "Whenever There Are Three Of You, Then Let Two Not Converse In Exclusion Of Their Companion."
Reference : Jami` at-Tirmidhi 2825In-book reference : Book 43, Hadith 99English translation : Vol. 5, Book 41, Hadith 2825
Summary of Jami at-Tirmidhi Hadith 2825
This hadith about private conversation gives a very practical lesson in social manners. The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said that when three people are together, two should not speak secretly while leaving out their companion. In the narration of Sufyan, the reason is stated clearly: it may make the third person sad. The text also mentions wording that this can hurt a believer. This is easy to apply in daily life. Whispering, messaging, or making side conversations in front of one person can make them feel excluded or worried. The hadith does not ban all private talk in every setting; it speaks about three people together and two excluding the third. The core message is kindness in group speech.
What we learn from this hadith
- Do not exclude one person when only three people are present.
- Private side-talk can make the third person feel sad or hurt.
- Islamic manners care about people's feelings in small social moments.
- Speech should be handled in a way that avoids unnecessary harm.
