47/60. Chapter:
Jami at-Tirmidhi 3307 — Prohibition of Wailing
Regarding Surat Al-Muntahanah
Hadith About Not Wailing After Death
Jami at-Tirmidhi : 3307
Jami at-TirmidhiHadith Number 3307
حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ بْنُ حُمَيْدٍ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو نُعَيْمٍ، حَدَّثَنَا يَزِيدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ الشَّيْبَانِيُّ، قَالَ سَمِعْتُ شَهْرَ بْنَ حَوْشَبٍ، قَالَ حَدَّثَتْنَا أُمُّ سَلَمَةَ الأَنْصَارِيَّةُ، قَالَتْ قَالَتِ امْرَأَةٌ مِنَ النِّسْوَةِ مَا هَذَا الْمَعْرُوفُ الَّذِي لاَ يَنْبَغِي لَنَا أَنْ نَعْصِيَكَ فِيهِ قَالَ " لاَ تَنُحْنَ " . قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ بَنِي فُلاَنٍ قَدْ أَسْعَدُونِي عَلَى عَمِّي وَلاَ بُدَّ لِي مِنْ قَضَائِهِنَّ فَأَبَى عَلَىَّ فَعَاتَبْتُهُ مِرَارًا فَأَذِنَ لِي فِي قَضَائِهِنَّ فَلَمْ أَنُحْ بَعْدُ عَلَى قَضَائِهِنَّ وَلاَ غَيْرِهِ حَتَّى السَّاعَةِ وَلَمْ يَبْقَ مِنَ النِّسْوَةِ امْرَأَةٌ إِلاَّ وَقَدْ نَاحَتْ غَيْرِي . قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى هَذَا حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ غَرِيبٌ . وَفِيهِ عَنْ أُمِّ عَطِيَّةَ رضى الله عنها . قَالَ عَبْدُ بْنُ حُمَيْدٍ أُمُّ سَلَمَةَ الأَنْصَارِيَّةُ هِيَ أَسْمَاءُ بِنْتُ يَزِيدَ بْنِ السَّكَنِ .
Shahr bin Hawshab Narrated from:
Umm Salamah Al-Ansariyyah Narrated To Us, She Said: ‘A Woman Said: “What Is This Ma’Ruf For Which We Are Not To Disobey In?” He (Pbuh) Said: “[That You Not Wail.]” I Said: “O Messenger Of Allah! Verily Banu So-And-So Comforted Me In The Case Of My Uncle, And I Must Reciprocate For Them.’ But He Refused To Allow Me. So I Asked Him Again Numerous Times, Then He Permitted Me To Reciprocate For Them. So After Reciprocating For The, I Did Not Wail For Anyone Else Until This Time. And There Does Not Remain A Woman Except That She Has Wailed Besides Me.’”
Reference : Jami` at-Tirmidhi 3307In-book reference : Book 47, Hadith 359English translation : Vol. 5, Book 44, Hadith 3307
Summary of Jami at-Tirmidhi Hadith 3307
This hadith explains part of the “Ma’ruf” that women were not to disobey in. A woman asked what that Ma’ruf meant, and the Prophet answered: “Do not wail.” The narrator then mentioned her personal case, saying that some women had comforted her during the death of her uncle and that she felt she had to return the same to them. The Prophet first refused, then after she asked many times, he allowed her to reciprocate. She then said that after that, she did not wail for anyone again. The hadith about not wailing teaches restraint in grief and obedience to the Prophet’s instruction.
What we learn from this hadith
- The Prophet explained that not wailing was part of the required Ma’ruf here.
- Grief should be kept within guided limits.
- The woman stopped wailing after the matter described in the narration.
- The hadith shows a direct question and a clear prophetic answer.
