17/16. Chapter:
Sahih Muslim 715e — Marital Playfulness and Companionship
It is recommended to marry virgins
Hadith About Marital Playfulness and Companionship
Sahih Muslim : 715e
Sahih MuslimHadith Number 715e
حَدَّثَنَا عُبَيْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ مُعَاذٍ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبِي، حَدَّثَنَا شُعْبَةُ، عَنْ مُحَارِبٍ، عَنْ جَابِرِ بْنِ، عَبْدِ اللَّهِ قَالَ تَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً فَقَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم " هَلْ تَزَوَّجْتَ " . قُلْتُ نَعَمْ . قَالَ " أَبِكْرًا أَمْ ثَيِّبًا " . قُلْتُ ثَيِّبًا . قَالَ " فَأَيْنَ أَنْتَ مِنَ الْعَذَارَى وَلِعَابِهَا " . قَالَ شُعْبَةُ فَذَكَرْتُهُ لِعَمْرِو بْنِ دِينَارٍ فَقَالَ قَدْ سَمِعْتُهُ مِنْ جَابِرٍ وَإِنَّمَا قَالَ " فَهَلاَّ جَارِيَةً تُلاَعِبُهَا وَتُلاَعِبُكَ "
Jabir bin `Abdullah Narrated from:
I married a woman, whereupon Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said to me: Have you married? I said: Yes. He said: Is it a virgin or a previously married one (widow or divorced)? I said: With a previously married one, whereupon he said: Where had you been (away) from the amusements of virgins? Shu'ba said: I made a mention of it to 'Amr b. Dinar and he said: I too heard from Jabir making mention of that (that Allah's Apostle) said: Why didn't you marry a girl, so that you might sport with her and she might sport with you?
Reference : Sahih Muslim 715eIn-book reference : Book 17, Hadith 70USC-MSA web (English) reference : Book 8, Hadith 3459
Summary of Sahih Muslim Hadith 715e
This narration about marital playfulness and companionship reports a short exchange between Jabir and Allah’s Messenger. Jabir said that he had married a woman. The Prophet asked whether she was a virgin or previously married. When Jabir said she was previously married, the Prophet asked why he did not marry a virgin, mentioning playfulness and mutual enjoyment. The report then includes Shu’ba’s note that he mentioned it to Amr b. Dinar, who also heard from Jabir and gave the wording: “Why didn’t you marry a girl, so that you might sport with her and she might sport with you?” The point should stay within the text: the Prophet asked about companionship in marriage, while this narration does not include Jabir’s family reason.
What we learn from this hadith
- The Prophet asked Jabir about the kind of marriage he had entered.
- The report mentions playfulness and mutual enjoyment between spouses.
- The narration preserves a wording discussion from Shu’ba and Amr b. Dinar.
- This version does not include the later family explanation found in other narrations.
