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Sahih Muslim 715h — Returning Home with Care
It is recommended to marry virgins
Hadith About Returning Home with Care After Travel
Sahih Muslim : 715h
Sahih MuslimHadith Number 715h
حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ يَحْيَى، أَخْبَرَنَا هُشَيْمٌ، عَنْ سَيَّارٍ، عَنِ الشَّعْبِيِّ، عَنْ جَابِرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ، اللَّهِ قَالَ كُنَّا مَعَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم فِي غَزَاةٍ فَلَمَّا أَقْبَلْنَا تَعَجَّلْتُ عَلَى بَعِيرٍ لِي قَطُوفٍ فَلَحِقَنِي رَاكِبٌ خَلْفِي فَنَخَسَ بَعِيرِي بِعَنَزَةٍ كَانَتْ مَعَهُ فَانْطَلَقَ بَعِيرِي كَأَجْوَدِ مَا أَنْتَ رَاءٍ مِنَ الإِبِلِ فَالْتَفَتُّ فَإِذَا أَنَا بِرَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَقَالَ " مَا يُعْجِلُكَ يَا جَابِرُ " . قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنِّي حَدِيثُ عَهْدٍ بِعُرْسٍ . فَقَالَ " أَبِكْرًا تَزَوَّجْتَهَا أَمْ ثَيِّبًا " . قَالَ قُلْتُ بَلْ ثَيِّبًا . قَالَ " هَلاَّ جَارِيَةً تُلاَعِبُهَا وَتُلاَعِبُكَ " . قَالَ فَلَمَّا قَدِمْنَا الْمَدِينَةَ ذَهَبْنَا لِنَدْخُلَ فَقَالَ " أَمْهِلُوا حَتَّى نَدْخُلَ لَيْلاً - أَىْ عِشَاءً - كَىْ تَمْتَشِطَ الشَّعِثَةُ وَتَسْتَحِدَّ الْمُغِيبَةُ " . قَالَ وَقَالَ " إِذَا قَدِمْتَ فَالْكَيْسَ الْكَيْسَ " .
Jabir b. 'Abdullah (Allah be pleased with them) reported: We were with Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) in an expedition. When we returned I urged my camel to move quickly as it was slow. There met me a rider from behind me and he goaded it with an iron-tipped stick which he had with him. My camel moved forward like the best that you have ever seen. As I turned (my face) I found him to be Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) He said: Jabir, what hastens you? I said: Messenger of Allah, I am newly wedded. whereupon he said: Is it a virgin that you have married or one previously married? I said: With one previously married. He said: Why not a young girl so that you could play with her and she could play with you? Then when we arrived at and were about to enter Medina he said: Wait, so that we may enter by night (i. e. in the evening) in order that the woman with dishevelled hair may comb it, and the woman whose husband had been away may get herself clean; and when you enter (then you have the) enjoyment (of tho wife's company).
[1] A short, iron-tipped spear. [2] Be smart: This may mean either “be smart and have intercourse with your wife (for the purpose of having children)” or “be smart and do not rush to have intercourse with your wife until you are sure that she is not menstruating etc.”Reference : Sahih Muslim 715hIn-book reference : Book 17, Hadith 73USC-MSA web (English) reference : Book 8, Hadith 3462
Summary of Sahih Muslim Hadith 715h
This hadith about returning home with care after travel begins during an expedition. Jabir was on a slow camel, and a rider came from behind and caused the camel to move faster. Jabir then realized the rider was Allah’s Messenger. The Prophet asked why he was hurrying, and Jabir said he was newly married. The Prophet asked whether his wife was a virgin or previously married, and mentioned mutual playfulness. When they reached Medina and were about to enter, the Prophet told them to wait until night, so the woman with dishevelled hair could comb it and the woman whose husband had been away could clean herself. The report teaches care, timing, and thoughtfulness when returning to family after travel.
What we learn from this hadith
- The Prophet noticed Jabir’s hurry and asked him about it.
- The narration connects new marriage with companionship and mutual playfulness.
- The Prophet told the group to delay entry so wives could prepare.
- Returning from travel was treated with care for the household.
