17/16. Chapter:
Sahih Muslim 715j — Prophetic Advice on Marriage and Mercy
It is recommended to marry virgins
Hadith About Prophet’s Advice to Jabir on Marriage
Sahih Muslim : 715j
Sahih MuslimHadith Number 715j
حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الأَعْلَى، حَدَّثَنَا الْمُعْتَمِرُ، قَالَ سَمِعْتُ أَبِي، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو نَضْرَةَ، عَنْ جَابِرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ، قَالَ كُنَّا فِي مَسِيرٍ مَعَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم وَأَنَا عَلَى نَاضِحٍ إِنَّمَا هُوَ فِي أُخْرَيَاتِ النَّاسِ - قَالَ - فَضَرَبَهُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم أَوْ قَالَ نَخَسَهُ - أُرَاهُ قَالَ - بِشَىْءٍ كَانَ مَعَهُ قَالَ فَجَعَلَ بَعْدَ ذَلِكَ يَتَقَدَّمُ النَّاسَ يُنَازِعُنِي حَتَّى إِنِّي لأَكُفُّهُ قَالَ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم " أَتَبِيعُنِيهِ بِكَذَا وَكَذَا وَاللَّهُ يَغْفِرُ لَكَ " . قَالَ قُلْتُ هُوَ لَكَ يَا نَبِيَّ اللَّهِ . قَالَ " أَتَبِيعُنِيهِ بِكَذَا وَكَذَا وَاللَّهُ يَغْفِرُ لَكَ " . قَالَ قُلْتُ هُوَ لَكَ يَا نَبِيَّ اللَّهِ . قَالَ وَقَالَ لِي " أَتَزَوَّجْتَ بَعْدَ أَبِيكَ " . قُلْتُ نَعَمْ . قَالَ " ثَيِّبًا أَمْ بِكْرًا " . قَالَ قُلْتُ ثَيِّبًا . قَالَ " فَهَلاَّ تَزَوَّجْتَ بِكْرًا تُضَاحِكُكَ وَتُضَاحِكُهَا وَتُلاَعِبُكَ وَتُلاَعِبُهَا " . قَالَ أَبُو نَضْرَةَ فَكَانَتْ كَلِمَةً يَقُولُهَا الْمُسْلِمُونَ . افْعَلْ كَذَا وَكَذَا وَاللَّهُ يَغْفِرُ لَكَ .
Jabir bin `Abdullah Narrated from:
We were with Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) in a journey, and I was riding a camel meant for carrying water and it lagged behind all persons. Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) hit it or goaded it (I think) with something he had with him. And after it (it moved so quickly) that it went ahead of all persons and it struggled with me (to move faster than I permitted It) and I had to restrain it.Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: Do you sell it at such and such (price)? May Allah grant you pardon. I said: Allah's Apostle, it is yours. He (again) said: Do you sell it at such and such (price)? May Allah grant you pardon. ' I said: Allah's Apostle, it is yours.He said to me: Have you married after the death of your father? I said: Yes. He (again) said: With one previously married or a virgin? I said: With one previously married. He said: Why didn't you marry a virgin who might amuse you and you might amuse her, and she might sport with you and you might sport with her? Abu Nadra said: That was the common phrase which the Muslims spoke:" You do such and such (thing) and Allah may grant you pardon."
Reference : Sahih Muslim 715jIn-book reference : Book 17, Hadith 75USC-MSA web (English) reference : Book 8, Hadith 3464
Summary of Sahih Muslim Hadith 715j
This hadith about the Prophet’s advice to Jabir on marriage reports a journey scene. Jabir was riding a water-carrying camel that lagged behind. Allah’s Messenger hit or goaded it with something he had, and it moved ahead so strongly that Jabir had to restrain it. The Prophet asked if Jabir would sell it and used the phrase, “May Allah grant you pardon.” The narration then says this was a common phrase among Muslims. He also asked whether Jabir had married after his father’s death, and whether the wife was previously married or a virgin. When Jabir said previously married, the Prophet mentioned the joy and playfulness of marrying a virgin. This version focuses on the question, the camel, and the marriage advice, without adding the longer explanation found elsewhere.
What we learn from this hadith
- The Prophet helped Jabir’s lagging camel during the journey.
- The phrase “May Allah grant you pardon” is noted as common speech in the report.
- The Prophet asked Jabir about marriage after his father’s death.
- The narration mentions playfulness and mutual enjoyment in marriage.
