21/14. Chapter:
Sunan an-Nasai 1847 — Grief Without Uncontrolled Wailing
Prohibition of weeping for the dead
Hadith About Stopping Excessive Weeping
Sunan an-Nasai : 1847
Sunan an-NasaiHadith Number 1847
أَخْبَرَنَا يُونُسُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الأَعْلَى، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ وَهْبٍ، قَالَ قَالَ مُعَاوِيَةُ بْنُ صَالِحٍ وَحَدَّثَنِي يَحْيَى بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، عَنْ عَمْرَةَ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، قَالَتْ لَمَّا أَتَى نَعْىُ زَيْدِ بْنِ حَارِثَةَ وَجَعْفَرِ بْنِ أَبِي طَالِبٍ وَعَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ رَوَاحَةَ جَلَسَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم يُعْرَفُ فِيهِ الْحُزْنُ وَأَنَا أَنْظُرُ مِنْ صِئْرِ الْبَابِ فَجَاءَهُ رَجُلٌ فَقَالَ إِنَّ نِسَاءَ جَعْفَرٍ يَبْكِينَ . فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم " انْطَلِقْ فَانْهَهُنَّ " . فَانْطَلَقَ ثُمَّ جَاءَ فَقَالَ قَدْ نَهَيْتُهُنَّ فَأَبَيْنَ أَنْ يَنْتَهِينَ . فَقَالَ " انْطَلِقْ فَانْهَهُنَّ " . فَانْطَلَقَ ثُمَّ جَاءَ فَقَالَ قَدْ نَهَيْتُهُنَّ فَأَبَيْنَ أَنْ يَنْتَهِينَ . قَالَ " فَانْطَلِقْ فَاحْثُ فِي أَفْوَاهِهِنَّ التُّرَابَ " . فَقَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ فَقُلْتُ أَرْغَمَ اللَّهُ أَنْفَ الأَبْعَدِ إِنَّكَ وَاللَّهِ مَا تَرَكْتَ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم وَمَا أَنْتَ بِفَاعِلٍ .
A'isha Narrated from:
When news of the death of Zaid bin Harithah, Ja'far bin Abi Talib and 'Abdullah bin Rawahah was announced, the Messenger of Allah sat down and it could be seen that he was grieving. I was looking through a crack in the door, and a man came and said: 'Ja'far's womenfolk are weeping.' The Messenger of Allah said: 'Go and prevent them.'He went away, then he came back, and said: I told them not to do that, but they refused to stop; He said: Go and prevent them; He went away then he came back, and said: I told them not to do that, but they refused to stop. He said: 'Throw dust in their mouths.'" Aishah said: "I said: 'May Allah rub his nose in the dust, the one who is over there! You did not leave the Messenger of Allah alone but you were not going to do (what he told you to do).""
Reference : Sunan an-Nasa'i 1847In-book reference : Book 21, Hadith 30English translation : Vol. 3, Book 21, Hadith 1848
Summary of Sunan an-Nasai Hadith 1847
This hadith about stopping excessive weeping shows two things in one report: the Messenger of Allah grieved, and he also gave guidance about loud public mourning. Aishah said that when news came of the deaths of Zaid bin Harithah, Ja'far bin Abi Talib, and Abdullah bin Rawahah, the Prophet sat and grief could be seen on him. A man then came and said that the womenfolk of Ja'far were weeping. The Prophet told him to go and prevent them. The man returned more than once, saying they refused to stop. The strong wording that followed shows how serious the matter was. The hadith is searched as wailing in Islam hadith and Ja'far women weeping hadith.
What we learn from this hadith
- The Prophet felt grief when news of death reached him.
- Grief is not the same as uncontrolled public wailing.
- The Prophet gave repeated instruction to stop the weeping mentioned in this report.
- Aishah disliked the man repeatedly disturbing the Prophet without carrying out the command.
