10/24. Chapter:
Jami at-Tirmidhi 1002 — Crying Over the Deceased
What Has Been Related About It Being Disliked To Cry Over The Deceased
Hadith About Crying Over the Deceased
Jami at-Tirmidhi : 1002
Jami at-TirmidhiHadith Number 1002
حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ أَبِي زِيَادٍ، حَدَّثَنَا يَعْقُوبُ بْنُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ بْنِ سَعْدٍ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبِي، عَنْ صَالِحِ بْنِ كَيْسَانَ، عَنِ الزُّهْرِيِّ، عَنْ سَالِمِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، قَالَ قَالَ عُمَرُ بْنُ الْخَطَّابِ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم " الْمَيِّتُ يُعَذَّبُ بِبُكَاءِ أَهْلِهِ عَلَيْهِ " . وَفِي الْبَابِ عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ وَعِمْرَانَ بْنِ حُصَيْنٍ . قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى حَدِيثُ عُمَرَ حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ صَحِيحٌ . وَقَدْ كَرِهَ قَوْمٌ مِنْ أَهْلِ الْعِلْمِ الْبُكَاءَ عَلَى الْمَيِّتِ قَالُوا الْمَيِّتُ يُعَذَّبُ بِبُكَاءِ أَهْلِهِ عَلَيْهِ . وَذَهَبُوا إِلَى هَذَا الْحَدِيثِ . وَقَالَ ابْنُ الْمُبَارَكِ أَرْجُو إِنْ كَانَ يَنْهَاهُمْ فِي حَيَاتِهِ أَنْ لاَ يَكُونَ عَلَيْهِ مِنْ ذَلِكَ شَيْءٌ .
'Umar bin Al-Khattab Narrated from:
The Messenger Of Allah Said: "The Deceased Is Punished For The Crying Of His Family Over Him."
Reference : Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1002In-book reference : Book 10, Hadith 38English translation : Vol. 2, Book 5, Hadith 1002
Summary of Jami at-Tirmidhi Hadith 1002
This hadith about crying over the deceased carries a serious warning. Umar bin Al-Khattab narrated that the Messenger of Allah said the deceased is punished for the crying of his family over him. The wording points to a type of mourning that is not simple sadness. In the same report, some scholars disliked crying over the dead because of this hadith. The narration also mentions Ibn Al-Mubarak’s hope that if the deceased had forbidden them from such crying during his life, then he would not bear anything from it. The main lesson is to keep grief within the limits of patience, dignity, and careful speech.
What we learn from this hadith
- Mourning should be controlled and respectful.
- Family members should avoid blameworthy crying over the dead.
- A person should advise loved ones against improper mourning while alive.
- Grief should not lead to actions or words that bring harm.
