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Jami at-Tirmidhi 1997 — Love and Hate Moderately
What Has Been Related Concerning Being Moderate In Loving And Hating
Hadith About Loving and Hating Moderately
Jami at-Tirmidhi : 1997
Jami at-TirmidhiHadith Number 1997
حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو كُرَيْبٍ، حَدَّثَنَا سُوَيْدُ بْنُ عَمْرٍو الْكَلْبِيُّ، عَنْ حَمَّادِ بْنِ سَلَمَةَ، عَنْ أَيُّوبَ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ سِيرِينَ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، أُرَاهُ رَفَعَهُ قَالَ " أَحْبِبْ حَبِيبَكَ هَوْنًا مَا عَسَى أَنْ يَكُونَ بَغِيضَكَ يَوْمًا مَا وَأَبْغِضْ بَغِيضَكَ هَوْنًا مَا عَسَى أَنْ يَكُونَ حَبِيبَكَ يَوْمًا مَا " . قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى هَذَا حَدِيثٌ غَرِيبٌ لاَ نَعْرِفُهُ بِهَذَا الإِسْنَادِ إِلاَّ مِنْ هَذَا الْوَجْهِ . وَقَدْ رُوِيَ هَذَا الْحَدِيثُ عَنْ أَيُّوبَ بِإِسْنَادٍ غَيْرِ هَذَا رَوَاهُ الْحَسَنُ بْنُ أَبِي جَعْفَرٍ وَهُوَ حَدِيثٌ ضَعِيفٌ أَيْضًا بِإِسْنَادٍ لَهُ عَنْ عَلِيٍّ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم وَالصَّحِيحُ عَنْ عَلِيٍّ مَوْقُوفٌ قَوْلُهُ .
Abu Hurairah Narrated from:
Muhammad bin Sirin narrated from Abu Hurairah - and I think he (narrated it from the Prophet) who said: "Love Your Beloved Moderately, Perhaps He Becomes Hated To You Someday. And Hate Whom You Hate Moderately, Perhaps He Becomes Your Beloved Someday."
Reference : Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1997In-book reference : Book 27, Hadith 103English translation : Vol. 4, Book 1, Hadith 1997
Summary of Jami at-Tirmidhi Hadith 1997
This Hadith teaches balance in feelings toward people. It says to love your beloved moderately, because that person may one day become disliked to you. It also says to hate the one you hate moderately, because that person may one day become beloved to you. The Hadith about loving and hating moderately reminds a person not to let emotions become extreme. Human relationships can change. Someone close may become distant, and someone disliked may later become close. The text does not remove love or dislike. It teaches measured feelings, careful behavior, and emotional control. This protects a person from regret when situations change.
What we learn from this hadith
- Love should be kept within moderation.
- Dislike should also be kept within moderation.
- Relationships and feelings can change over time.
- Balanced emotions can protect a person from regret.
