27/59. Chapter:
Jami at-Tirmidhi 1996 — Avoiding Filthy Speech
What Has Been Related About Being Polite
Hadith About Filthy Speech and Bad Manners
Jami at-Tirmidhi : 1996
Jami at-TirmidhiHadith Number 1996
حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ أَبِي عُمَرَ، حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ بْنُ عُيَيْنَةَ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ الْمُنْكَدِرِ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ بْنِ الزُّبَيْرِ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، قَالَتِ اسْتَأْذَنَ رَجُلٌ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم وَأَنَا عِنْدَهُ فَقَالَ " بِئْسَ ابْنُ الْعَشِيرَةِ أَوْ أَخُو الْعَشِيرَةِ " . ثُمَّ أَذِنَ لَهُ فَأَلاَنَ لَهُ الْقَوْلَ فَلَمَّا خَرَجَ قُلْتُ لَهُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قُلْتَ لَهُ مَا قُلْتَ ثُمَّ أَلَنْتَ لَهُ الْقَوْلَ . فَقَالَ " يَا عَائِشَةُ إِنَّ مِنْ شَرِّ النَّاسِ مَنْ تَرَكَهُ النَّاسُ أَوْ وَدَعَهُ النَّاسُ اتِّقَاءَ فُحْشِهِ " . قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى هَذَا حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ صَحِيحٌ .
A'isha Narrated from:
A Man Sought Permission To Enter Upon The Messenger Of Allah While I Was With Him, So He Said: 'What An Evil Son Of His Tribe, Or Brother Of His Tribe.' Then He Admitted Him And Spoke With Him. When He Left, I Said: 'O Messenger Of Allah! You Said What You Said About Him. Then You Talked Politely With Him?' He Said: 'O 'Aishah! Indeed Among The Evilest Of People Are Those Whom The People Avoid, Or Who The People Leave, Fearing His Filthy Speech.'
Reference : Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1996In-book reference : Book 27, Hadith 102English translation : Vol. 4, Book 1, Hadith 1996
Summary of Jami at-Tirmidhi Hadith 1996
This Hadith shows the danger of filthy speech. A man asked permission to enter, and the Prophet described him with a negative remark. Yet when the man entered, the Prophet spoke to him politely. When Aishah asked about this, the Prophet explained that among the evilest of people are those whom people avoid or leave because they fear his filthy speech. The Hadith about filthy speech teaches two points from the text. First, bad speech can make people avoid someone. Second, polite speech may still be used when dealing with such a person. It warns Muslims not to become people whose words make others afraid or uncomfortable.
What we learn from this hadith
- Filthy speech is a serious blameworthy trait.
- People may avoid someone because of harmful speech.
- Polite speech can be used even with a difficult person.
- A Muslim should not let the tongue become a source of fear for others.
